Sunday, July 26, 2015
Confidence can do a lot for a person.
If you are not confident, what is causing you to have doubts in your self? Do you think you are a failure, unattractive, stupid?
All of this can be overcome with confidence. Honestly, girls (girls we want to date) don't care a lot about these things. Of course, if you are really over weight and you have bad teeth and you dress like a hobo, change yourself.
They act like they are good looking and they are rich, they act in ways that make men and women naturally attracted to them.
A happy go lucky guy who smiles a lot will get x10 the amount of attention as a sad sack sitting in the corner no matter how hot or rich he is.
Be happy with yourself, but if there is something holding you back from being a more outgoing person, fix it.
If you have something that bothers you, something like acne or weird mole. You can either realize that it does not bother anyone else or simply fix it. Because if you are self-conscious all the time, you will not act in an attractive way to a woman.
Those people that do fix their “flaws” notice a big difference, but not in their physical appearance...in their confidence level.
Especially on the first date, be cool. Don't be nervous, don't get all excited and act like a goof.
Don't act desperate around women, just be yourself and not worry about the outcome, dating should be fun!
Men are so scared to be themselves around women that they act all uptight and nervous and are not sure what to say.
Don't worry about. Most men by nature are not big mouth arrogant SOB's, so just say what's on your mind.
Talking about sex and other taboo subjects is FINE. Teasing a girl lightly is fine, as long as it's funny and a little bit cocky.
Be the fun guy to hang around, make dating fun for you and her.
Don’t Show your Emotions
This rule IS SO IMPORTANT when you start dating someone more seriously. I made this mistake a couple of times early on and the relationships ended pretty soon after.
If a woman says something to you that makes you feel nervous, angry, upset and you feel like you're going to get overly emotional and say something you will regret, FOR THE GOOD OF YOUR SANITY, Don't say anything.
It's a lot easier to say nothing then it is to take something stupid back. Think before you speak. Women will always do this. Women will blame you for things that are not your fault, things will happen in their lives that make them emotional, you're job is to stay calm.
I'll give you a personal example. I started dating a girl I REALLY liked, but a couple of weeks into the relationship, she told me she was pregnant and she wasn't sure who the father was, because before she started dating me, she was seeing two other guys.
I freaked out, and you probably think, well rightly so, and it was probably for the best things ended,
but, breaking up with someone is better when you're the one breaking up with the girl
I know this sounds childish, but it's true. It's a mental thing. Being dumped is a horrible feeling and take's longer to get over.
Be a Man
Girls like a guy who will lead in the relationship. I don't mean bossy, I mean lead. It's a manly thing to do.
When a woman asks what you want to do, don't reply back, "I dunno, what do you want to do", take the bull by the horn's and make a decision. I know it's a bit of a pain to be the one who does this all the time, but it really works.
Also, when women throw things at you that you're not expecting, never over react, I touched on this just before, and I'm going to again.
If a girl says she's going out with male friends, or seeing an ex boyfriend, don't flip your lid, this is the quickest way to push her away.
Just say things like, "you do what you wanna do", "it's your life, I'm not your father, have fun". Saying things like this make you sound confident in yourself and don't really care what she does.
Begging her not to go and doing all sorts of crazy things guys do will push her away for good.
There’s Plenty of Fish in the Sea
Always keep busy! Never make too much time for a girl when you first start dating. All the other rules will fall into place if you just follow this one.
I know it can be hard, but just try and resist temptation by keeping yourself busy.
When you're sitting at home with nothing to do, you will be tempted to want to call any girl you're dating too much and you will become too available.
If she's says lets make plans for Tuesday, say no you're busy, how about Wednesday.
Get a hobby, play a sport, go out more with your friends and if you don't have any friends, make some!
Keep your mind busy and everything else will fall into place because you will be too busy with your life to care what she is doing. She will be just a nice little extra in your life, not your whole life!
If a girl goes on one or two dates with you and already feels that she knows absolutely everything about you, you are in big trouble. Because there will be nothing else for her to look forward to, nothing else to unravel.
Again, this goes with keeping busy. Never see a girl more then twice a week for at least the first 10 to 20 dates. Seriously. I know you will want to spend all your time with someone if you think she's the one. But, you need to build the attraction, not force it.
This way is best for both of you. I feel most guys will settle for a girl because she wants a relationship, even though she might not be the girl for him.
Take your time, have fun, date multiple women, its ok.
Let Things Go
Everyone has a past and most women have done things in the past that you may not like. But the past is the past, you should focus more on the present and future.
You have to accept people for who they are, if you really like someone, leave the past where it belongs, in the past.
Don’t Write Desperate Letters
What is it with guys and writing sappy letters or emails when they feel like they are losing the girl or have lost the girl.
If a girl breaks up with you, let it go, move on with your life, start dating again and you will find this will bring back love quicker then a sappy email professing your undying love for the girl. Think before you speak, think before you type!
Know What You Want Out of Life
I don't know what it is, but when your talking about something your passionate about, people are naturally attracted to you.
Passion and desire are always a turn on, even if the passion or desire is about something, not someone.
Constantly apologizing when you have done nothing wrong is a real turn off for women. So don’t be “sorry” for almost everything you do.
If you step on a girls shoe, you can say sorry. But saying sorry when you are 5 minutes late is absolutely NOT necessary.
Women see this as a sign of weakness. If a girl is doing something or saying something you don't like, tell her that. If she's acting bratty, tell her that.
Don't put up with moody behavior just because she thinks you deserve to be treated that way, you don't.
Relax on Your first Date
Act like you would act if you were with your friends. Just because you are with a girl it does not mean you have to try and be what you think she wants you to be. Be your self, that is what she wants you to be.
I know that not caring can be a turn on for women, but you should care what you look like. Because looks do count and when you look good and you know you look good, it shows.